Help & guide
New here, or just need a refresher? This page walks through everything KeptInCheckMate can do - from creating an account to the finer points of keeping (or being kept) accountable. Nothing below is a substitute for a real conversation with your partner, but it should answer most "how do I…" questions.
Getting started
How to register
Tap Create account on the login screen and give us a name, an email address and a password (at least 8 characters - make it a good one, this is a site with secrets to keep). That's it: no invitation code, no waiting list. Once you're in, you can look around on your own before you connect with anyone.
One more step first, though: we'll email you a verification link, and you can't log in until you click it. Consider it a taste of what's to come - a little gatekeeping, right from the start. Didn't get it? Check your spam folder, then use Resend verification email on the login screen.
Logging in
Use your email (or name) and password from the login screen. Forgotten your password? The Forgot password link will email you a reset link - assuming you still remember which inbox you used, of course.
Your account
How to change your password
Head to your Profile page and open Change password. Enter your current password plus the new one and confirm. Change it as often as you like - your keyholder can't see it, only that you're a good, security-conscious account holder.
Connecting with a partner
A relationship on KeptInCheckMate always has two sides: a keyholder and a locked partner. A keyholder can hold the keys for as many partners as they like, but a locked partner only ever has one keyholder at a time - so choose wisely who you hand your key to.
Yes, you can be both at once: a keyholder for one person while someone else holds your key. KeptInCheckMate doesn't judge your relationship graph.
How to connect
- Open your Profile page and grab your personal connection link.
- Send that link to your partner however you'd normally talk to them.
- When they open it, they'll be asked to log in (or register first), and then to accept the request.
Who chooses the type of relationship?
The person who opens the link - not the one who sent it - decides which role they want: Keyholder or Partner (to be locked). The link's owner automatically gets whichever role is left over. So if you're sending out your link hoping to be handed the key, make sure the other person actually knows what they're agreeing to before they tap that button.
Changed your mind, or things ended? Either side can remove the connection from the Partners page. To avoid accidental heartbreak (or accidental freedom), you'll need to type the other person's name to confirm.
Messages & notifications
The Messages page is a shared timeline between you and your connected partner, mixing direct messages with system notifications (like a new lock-in or release, color-coded so you can tell at a glance which is which). Unread items show a badge next to the nav link and are marked read as soon as you open the page - so no, you can't quietly peek without them ever knowing you were there. One notification gets special treatment: an immediate-lock request from your keyholder arrives in red and impossible to miss, because some things shouldn't blend in with the rest of your inbox.
Need to show, not tell? Attach a photo to any message - PNG, JPEG or WebP, up to 10 MB. We quietly shrink and recompress every picture on our end before it's stored, so your keyholder still gets the evidence without your storage bill (or ours) getting out of hand. Don't expect gallery-print quality; do expect it to load fast.
For keyholders
Welcome to the fun part. Once you're connected, KeptInCheckMate gives you a real-time window into what your locked partner is (or isn't) up to.
Managing and observing your locked partner
- The Partners page shows your partner's current status at a glance - locked or not, which device, and since when. If that "since" keeps getting longer, you're doing something right.
- The Stats page adds the receipts: the percentage of time they've spent locked, a breakdown per device, and a full history of every lock-in and release - including the reason they gave for asking out. Read those reasons carefully.
- That same page also tallies their confessed releases: how many, how long it's been since the last one, and the average number of days between them - so you'll never have to take their word for it again.
- You can't lock or unlock the device yourself from here (that button lives on their side), but you'll always know exactly where things stand - which, let's be honest, is most of the control that matters.
- If they're currently unlocked, a Request immediate lock button appears right there on the Partners page - your not-so-subtle way of saying "now would be a good time." It only shows up once they've actually registered a device (asking someone to lock up with nothing to lock into would just be cruel), and it disappears the moment you've sent it, replaced by a quiet note that your request is waiting on them.
Uploading a chastity contract
Open the connection on your Partners page and use Add chastity contract to upload the rules you've agreed on - a PDF or an image (PNG, JPEG or WebP), up to 15 MB. Once it's up, your partner can view and download it any time, but only you can replace or remove it. Consider it your signature move: the rules are yours to write and yours to enforce.
Keyholders can be kept too
Holding someone else's keys doesn't mean you're off the hook yourself. If you log your own releases on the Devices page - whether or not you own a registered device - your Stats page will show your own release count, time since the last one, average days between them, and a full release history right alongside whatever you're tracking for your partner.
For locked partners
Being kept accountable starts with being honest about your gear and your status. Here's everything you're in charge of - which, appropriately, isn't all that much.
Adding devices
On the Devices page, add each device you own with its manufacturer, model, and sizing details. You can edit or delete a device later, though deleting one doesn't erase the history it already earned you.
Locking in and asking to be released
- From a device card, tap Lock in to start a session - you can optionally backdate the start time if you were, ahem, running behind on paperwork.
- You can only be locked into one device at a time, so no double-dipping. Every other device stays greyed out until you're free again.
- Tap Release when it's time to come out, and you'll be asked for a reason. This isn't optional - a clear record of "why" is the whole point, and your keyholder will see it on their end.
- If your keyholder decides you've been unlocked long enough, you'll know about it: a request for an immediate lock shows up on your Messages page looking exactly as urgent as it is - impossible to miss, with a Comply button that takes you straight to your devices so there's no excuse about not finding the page in time.
Your stats
Visit the Stats page for the numbers you can't talk your way out of: percentage of time locked since you joined, a per-device time breakdown, and a complete, timestamped history of every lock-in and release with your stated reasons attached. Your keyholder sees the exact same numbers - so make them numbers you're proud of. No device registered yet but you've still been confessing releases? You'll still get a stats section - just the release count, streak, and release history, waiting for you to add a device.
Confessing a release
Had a release? There's a card for that too, right on the Devices page. Log when it happened and pick how, from a preset list (masturbation, partner-assisted, intercourse, wet dream, ruined orgasm) or type your own if none of those quite capture the occasion. It gets added straight to your permanent record - total release count, time since the last one, and the average days between them, all sitting proudly on your Stats page (and a quick "days since last release" reminder greets you on the Dashboard too) - for your keyholder to admire.
How contracts work for you
If your keyholder has uploaded a chastity contract, you'll find it on the Partners page, ready to view or download whenever you need a reminder of what you agreed to. You can't edit or remove it yourself - that pen belongs to your keyholder alone. Read it, know it, and try not to need to reread it quite so often.
Still stuck, or found something odd? Reach out from the Contact page - we're happy to help, no confessions required.